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This is a hard question, with no clear answer. The solution depends on you, your coping strategies, and the relationship you had with your mother.
My mother died in 2009. Even though it's been nearly 10 years now, I'm still not “over it” — and I don't believe I ever will be. And I'm okay with that.
We don't move on from grief—we move on with it. Grief is not like a cold or a broken leg. It's a transformative experience that will change your life forever. How could it not? Your mother is a part of you, and that doesn't change just because she is no longer present here on earth.
Thinking of grief as permanent might seem horrible, but bear with me.
I urge you not to think of grief as something to overcome, move past or get over. It's here to stay, so you should instead focus on ways to make living with it easy and beneficial to you. And that is very possible! Over time, and with a lot of emotional work, you will be able to live without constantly thinking of her, experiencing emotional pain or feeling depressed.
Here are some things you can do to help you feel better in a healthy way long-term:
One day you'll be able to think of your mother's life with a heart full of love, and without the sting of regretting her death. Good luck to you as you navigate your grief journey. It's not easy, but it does get better if you let yourself feel your feelings and heal without judging your progress.
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